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March 01, 2011

I NEED YOUR HELP!

March 01, 2011/ Dayka Robinson
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I'm working on a project for a client and have fallen in love with these Marcello Counter Stools from Ballard Designs, only problem is they're not available until the beginning of May! Anyone know of anything with a similar look (and price tag)?? If so, please leave me the info in the comments or drop me an email. Thanks for your help!

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“Being in alignment with your personal values is how you foster trust, self respect & personal integrity with yourself. And the only way to truly be in alignment is to make decisions that are in your BEST INTEREST, based on who you say you want to be. ”
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So much goes into making these design shows, you have NO idea how difficult it can be to get that last final look & make sure everything is “camera perfect”. And this is after MONTHS of a designer (@alexandramia10) Creating designs from scratch, months of approvals & changes by particular homeowners, network exec approval & a whollleeeeeee lots of other shit). Then a stylist (ME) still has to come in, shop each week in a new location (even if there’s only a Walmart in town!) & make sure I have everything on hand to install a house (or small apartment) in about 90 minutes. While ALL the work is still happening. • Imagine 13 people trying to work side by side in a 490 sq ft tiny house. Full film & audio crew + producers shooting content which requires you to stop/move/be quiet. Contractors trying to touch up paint (while you’re hanging towels!), install last minute items & anchor bathtubs (!!!!). Last minute fittings & checkings on everything, by everyone. 99 degrees outside with a ton of humidity & the air conditioner keeps shutting off, so lots of hot sweaty, stinky bodies in a tight space, working fast against the sun going down. Making beds in rooms with less than 3’ of head clearance. The bedding was a bit wrinkled coming out of the bag but....can’t steam ‘cause the electrical has been totally commandeered! • Making a design show can be a lot of fun....but it’s a whole lot of stress too. And yet it’s so crazy to look back, see the final product & know that all of the work was worth it. That the 8 trips to Home Goods & going over budget on pillows & buying real food just for show...it was all worth it. We all need to be reminded that every time we think our work ISN’T good enough, It actually already IS. • Another episode of Tiny House Nation (styles by ME!) is out!!! 🙌🏾
I’ve had boundaries WRONG for awhile. The ONE THING they require is the ONE THING I never really wanted to use because.....what if the person actually walked away because of it? What if MY boundary was THEIR deal-breaker? What if I couldn’t follow thru on what I said?? • And then I learned that boundaries with no consequences are nothing but hot fucking smoke. That even worse than damaging a relationship, they’ll cause you to start second guessing YOURSELF & can be a trust + self esteem killer too. Because safety is ALLLLLLLWAYS an inside job. Always. And once you’re an adult, it’s no longer anyone else’s job to keep you safe—it becomes your own. But it you were never taught healthy ways to do that?? You. Will. Fail. Even when you THINK you’re doing it the right way.....you probably aren’t. You will need to be taught the right way. • Boundaries are POWERFUL relationship connection tools, whether they’re with your mother/father, siblings, kids, employers, employees, neighbors, service providers or intimate partners. They’re like our personal guidebooks so that others know HOW to treat our lives & behave in our presence. But a BOUNDARY without a CONSEQUENCE? Yikes. • Consequences say: “I value myself.” “I mean what I say.” “I make my own safety a priority.” “I deserve to be protected.” And there is no other way to articulate this w/out a CONSEQUENCE. Having your boundary crossed & then telling someone, “I’m mad because I meant what I said!!!”, doesn’t actually mean shit. And it doesn’t work. I know from experience. • You will never go wrong when you honor yourself FIRST. Make it easy for other people to follow your lead. Never expect anyone else to advocate you harder than you advocate for YOURSELF. • Boundaries are beautiful, healthy, important things but without proper execution (CONSEQUENCES), they mean nothing. Help your relationships by first helping YOURSELF. Mean what you say & say what you mean. Then—if it comes down to it—make sure you BACK THEM UP with reinforcements. As Wu Tang once said: “Protect ya neck”. 😉 #SoDayka
The only time it DOESN’T lead to greater intimacy is when you open yourself up to people who are not actually YOUR people. But we only find that out by OPENING UP. So speak it. Share it. Allow it. And no matter what happens, know that you just got one step closer to greater intimacy & deeper meaning. 🙌🏾 #SoDayka
My VALUES CENTERED LIVING MASTERCLASS is in 5.5 hours—have you registered yet?? • Click the link in bio to reserve your seat & remember—if you can’t make it LIVE tonight, your ticket also gives you access to a replay, so you can learn at a more convenient time! Hope to see you there!
The inability to honor our own feelings is at the root of every difficult conversation we must have & every challenging choice we must make. And it means that somewhere along the way, we’ve been telling ourselves a lie for a really long time. • What makes things difficult is the fact that the misalignment wasn’t voiced immediately. The displeasure wasn’t voiced immediately. The boundary violation wasn’t voiced immediately. You decided lying to yourself—to maintain the status quo of the job, money, or relationship—was more important than simply telling the truth about your feelings & letting the chips fall where they may. • Because underneath it all, honesty is really an issue of CONTROL (wanting to control others’ perceptions of us, wanting to create a specific outcome, etc.). • When we lie to ourselves, we lie to everyone else around us too. Telling the truth isn’t always easy but one thing’s for sure—the longer you wait to give breath to truth, the deeper the hole you dig yourself....one that’s gonna take a mighty effort to pull yourself out of (though it CAN be done!). • Become intimate with your emotional landscape. Get used to speaking your truth of your experience. And if you don’t know how to do either of those... HIRE someone who can help you. (like a therapist) Because “I wasn’t taught how” is no long er a valid excuse when you’re a fully grown adult. LEARN how to tell the truth QUICKLY, so you can stop making your life more difficult than it has to be. We out makin’ it harder on OURSELVES. Let’s not anymore. ✨✨ #SoDayka
The older I get, the more I understand the sacrifices & selflessness it takes to be a mother! My God—it’s literally a never ending job!!! Happy Mother’s Day to my mama (who kept pushing) & to my mama friends, who continue to do the same, everyday. 💕
If you’re on my email list I dropped some transparent, real life shit in your inbox this morning. Go check it out. • If you’re not on my email list..... you probably should be. ‘Cause there’s always a lesson, even in the mess. #SoDayka
BE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE • TRUST GOD • WORTHY • TELL THE TRUTH • Have you purchased your Intention Bangle Bracelets yet?? I have limited stock remaining and when these are gone, it will be LATE FALL before you can order again! See the link in my bio to purchase yours today!
Last year, before I left for my #LostAndFoundMarrakech retreat, I put a call out on IG asking if anyone wanted to receive a post card from abroad...and I got a lot of requests! • While I didn’t take pictures of each card before I sent them off, I did manage to save a few. This is one of them. • My idea when I sent these postcards—to complete strangers, mind you—was to just write from my heart, about wherever I was in that moment, and see if what I wrote met them where they were. Because my gut was telling me that “Truth” is ALWAYS on time, even when it seems like it’s not. So I launched my little experiment... • I came across this photo earlier today & re-reading it made me realize, “Not only was I writing these notes for THEM, but I was writing them for a future ME, too.” Funny how what we THINK we’re doing for others actually ends up serving us, too. • As much as you can, write about your life.Write about your thoughts. Preserve your moments & memories & share them with anyone who will listen. Not only do other people need to know that “you were here” but sometimes....you do too. ❤️ #SoDayka
Freedom comes at a HEAVY price. Most people say they want it but, when faced with an opportunity to fully embrace & embody it, most of us just turn away. So often. • Because Freedom always requires the ONE THING you don’t really want to give up. And while that thing is different for each one of us, Freedom KNOWS what we’re holding onto. It knows your weak spots. And the moment we ask Freedom to sit beside us....walk with us....to be with us every single day....that’s the moment it asks us to hand that thing over. That thing we’ve been clinging to. (fuck!!!) And THAT is the exact moment where most of us shrink, turn away & think, “Well, maybe freedom isn’t really that necessary for me after all....”. Marinate on that. • “People don’t know what to do with freedom so....they don’t know what to do with a person who isn’t afraid to be afraid.” —Thank you for those words, @chancelor__11. Still one of my most touching compliments, ever. ❤️
You know what I’m obsessed with?? CORE PERSONAL VALUES. Mine & yours. • I’m all about creating lives that help us do MORE of what we really want while letting go of what we DON’T want, but I’ve found that there’s a big step most people aren’t spending enough time on: GETTING CLEAR ABOUT THEIR DEEPEST DESIRES. • Because building a life of value is SCIENTIFICALLY IMPOSSIBLE if you don’t even know what your values are!!! • A few years ago I created a detailed process that personally helped ME uncover the core of what I want & since then, it’s helped to guide me with so many pivotal decisions & pivotal moments in my life!! And now I’d love to share & teach it TO you. • So if you’re ready to live from a place of deeper alignment with more clarity about WHO you are & WHAT’S important, I’d love to have you join me for my ONLINE workshop training, “Creating a Values Centered Life”, launching next Monday, May 13th at 7pm EST. • Let me be your guide in learning to talk MORE about the things that matter MOST. ✨✨

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