I may have been a bit misleading in my last newsletter--the one where I announced my next trip to Marrakech.

Because I've created a totally new experience for this upcoming retreat in December, I was so focused on letting you know how the retreat was different & why it was more of an investment than my usual retreats that I kinda neglected to stress the most important piece:

I'm not actually selling you an "awesome vacation to Morocco". 
This isn't just a "come hang out in Marrakech" kinda deal. 

Yes, this trip is totally different than what I've created in the past.
More time in Marrakech.
A beautiful luxury riad.
A full-time photographer to document our experience.
New adventures & excursions. 
New cities.
More women to share this experience with.
All of these things are still very much true & you can read more about those details here. 

But truth be told this retreat is MUCH more than that.

What I'm really offering with my Lost & Found Marrakech retreats is an opportunity to transform YOUR OWN life. Because that's what I do in every area of my work--from retreats to coaching & design--I'm in the business of helping you get radically truthful about your life & creating awesome, unconventional opportunities for you to be who you say you are. And what better place to do that than to be totally out of your comfort zone in a new culture with a group of like-minded women??

Because that is precisely what it means to be "Lost & Found"--losing & letting go of everything you think you know about yourself so that you can find & uncover the you who's been waiting. The woman you imagine yourself to be. 

And the value on that kind of experience??
Well, that's priceless. 

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I created these retreats because I knew I wasn't the only one. I know there are others out there like me who feel the call to travel deep down in their bones. Ones who dream of distant lands & complex flavors & languages their tongues can't yet speak & the kind of amazing connections that come from sitting in random cafes in random cities, somewhere on the other side of the world. Ones who know that the life they have right now is only a fraction of the life they COULD be living. The women who already know, deep down, that they're gonna need to make a radical change to "save" their own lives if they're really going to become the women they've always dreamed they could be. 

My retreats are for those women. 
And if you what I just wrote resonated in your soul, then specifically--they're for you. 

I've hosted women who never previously traveled the world alone before but now consider themselves avid solo travelers. 

I've hosted women whose biggest fear was going on a trip where they didn't know a single soul, only to leave with friendships that have gone the distance. 

I've had women experience 6 days in Marrakech on a Lost & Found retreat only to return home and completely change every single thing about their lives. Jobs. Relationships. Homes. Cities. Everything. 

And to be clear, it's not that I'm performing some secret voodoo ceremonies that cause women to come home & change their lives because--as cool as that sounds--I'm not. I just rely on the truth, knowing that it meets each of us where we are. And instead, through following my own intuition, I've created a space where other women can also live & honor the truth of theirs. Because this is the funny thing about deep, transformative change:

You know when it's calling you. You know when it's your time. The only thing left to do is answer the call. 

And that's exactly what Lost & Found Marrakech is: 
It's a call for those who hear the sound ringing in their souls. 
So the only question to ask now is this: Will you answer???

Deposits for Lost & Found Luxury 2018 are due by June 25th, 2018 & only a few spots are remaining! 
 Click here to reserve your space with a FULL PAYMENT or here to reserve  with a convenient PAYMENT PLAN.  Total trip investment is $4531.72 if paid in full OR you may select a deposit payment of $1050 with 5 easy payments of $696.34. Click here to read more about the retreat details & payment schedule. 

If you have any specific questions, just send an email to dayka@daykarobinson.com to reach me directly. And if this sounds like a good fit for you don't delay--I look forward to meeting you in Marrakech!!

Lost & Found Marrakech LUXURY Starts December 2018. Come join us!

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It's been a long time, I know.

But I'm just gonna skip past the fact that it's now JUNE of 2018 & you haven't heard a peep from me since October of 2017 because...well what can really make up for being away for so long?? I launched an AWESOME website redesign at the beginning of the year & to be honest, things have kind of taken off since. 

Growth in ways I never saw coming--some more challenging than others--but I'm in a good place, y'all. GOOD. And now it's time to do more of what I love....but this time in a new way.

Marrakech. Luxury. Winter 2018.

After spending the entire month of April in Marrakech hosting TWO SOLD OUT retreats, I came back home more determined than ever to create new, transformative travel experiences for women. The world continues to whisper my name & it's become clear that immersive travel is in my bones, so I've felt increasingly determined to put more DAYKA into the work that I produce for the world (because there can never be enough Dayka, right??).

So this year I started by launching my very own, custom Intention Bracelets.

And as promised, I'm launching another Marrakech retreat to close out 2018--but this time it's a luxury version. Because--while I still love the components that make up my other Marrakech retreat--sometimes it's just nice to luxuriate for awhile. Matter of fact, we all NEED & DESERVE that.  Yesterday I released all of the details to the folks on my email list FIRST but now I'm making it available to everyone. And with only 6 LIMITED SPOTS available (2 were SNAPPED UP yesterday!), I wouldn't delay if you plan on going 'cause I won't be doing another Marrakech retreat until the end of 2019!


So here's the deal: 

This new retreat is a totally different experience from what I've create before. This time I've added TWO MORE DAYS to the itinerary in an effort to really give us time to soak in everything that Marrakech has to offer. We'll be staying in a beautiful, chic riad right in the center of the bustling Medina complete with 24 hour concierge, single occupancy rooms with private baths & all of the extras we Westerners love! We'll take day trips to venture outside of Marrakech to explore new parts of Morocco & we'll hop in a vintage sidecar to experience the city from an entirely new perspective. And of course--most importantly--we'll talk & connect. A lot. You'll have an opportunity to create the individual experience  your soul is craving--whether that means making an appointment to visit the hammam (spa) conveniently located in our riad, exploring the souks with a new friend or simply spending the day relaxing--while also experiencing the best parts of group travel. This is truly the best of both worlds!!

The December 4-11, 2018 retreat includes: 

  • 8 days/7 nights accommodation in a chic & luxurious, traditional Moroccan riad right in the heart of the thriving Medina ("old city"). Single occupancy rooms with private bath featuring iPod docking stations, satellite TVs, DVD players & a safe for personal effects. 
  • 24-hour on-site concierge
  • Personal trip photographer to capture our experiences & conversations!
  • Round trip transfer to & from RAK (Marrakech airport).
  • Daily breakfast featuring customary North African selections including tea, coffee, fresh breads, honey, jams, yoghurt & specialty Moroccan dishes.
  • 3-course "Welcome Dinner" upon arrival, made from fresh, local & seasonal ingredients. 
  • Custom, off-the-beaten path, individual city tours in a vintage, bespoke sidecar highlighting both the city & desert landscape of Marrakech. 
  • Full day trip to experience Morocco's seaside culture in the historic port city of Essaouira. Featuring guided walking tour + visits to an argan oil cooperative & UNESCO historic center.
  • Guided food tour of the Medina highlighting the Moroccan culinary experience + Islamic history. You'll eat your fill of regional specialties & traditional spices while working your way through areas of the massive Medina that you'd never find on your own!
  • 3 course "Departure Dinner" to close our our trip.

TOTAL INVESTMENT= $4531.72 (not including airfare)

Your $4531.72 payment can be paid in full up front, or you may opt for the following payment plan:

DEPOSIT June 15, 2018: $1050.00
Payment #2 July 15, 2018: $696.34
Payment #3 Aug. 15, 2018: $696.34
Payment #4 Sept. 15, 2018: $696.34
Payment #5 Oct. 15, 2018: $696.34
Payment #6 Nov. 15, 2018: $696.34


This trip is for the women who are looking to really immerse themselves in a destination versus those who just want to check all of the tourist traps off of their list. The ones who may have settled for watching Anthony Bourdain from the comfort of their couch but went to sleep with dreams of following in his footsteps & seeing the world. It's for women who believe in creating tribes & having the kind of honest, transparent conversations that forge deeper connections. For women who aren't afraid to get out of their comfort zone & try something new but more importantly, the kinda women who aren't afraid to do the personal work to BECOME someone new. We'll talk about work & worthiness & relationships & self care & food & every other random thing under the sun. And there will also probably be a fair amount of cursing too, so if that offends you, you probably shouldn't come. 

Come to think about it.....if you're not interested in opening yourself up to new people, don't come. 
If you're high maintenance, require a lot of hand-holding and/or are scared to be around new people, new foods & new experiences, don't come. 
If you need to be connected to wifi all of the time and can't live without HBO & the Real Housewives of Sioux Falls.....please don't come. 
By all means travel.....just maybe not with me, lol!

As I love to say, Marrakech is unlike anything you've seen before but don't take my word for it....come find out yourself. There are only 6 SPACES REMAINING & if history is a good indicator, this trip will sell out FAST!  Click the link to reserve your space with a FULL PAYMENT or here to pay the DEPOSIT to hold your spot. And if you have any questions, just reply to this email for the fastest response. 

In the meantime, thank you for continuing to follow my journey & support my products & read my words & engage with me as I endeavor to live my best life in this world. Your support means more than I can articulate!

And if the pull of an exciting travel experience is calling your name, I hope to see you in Marrakech this December! 

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It's that time again. 

Lost & Found Marrakech 2018 technically launched last week but before I could make the initial announcement to my email subscribers last Friday, MY FIRST TRIP WAS ALMOST SOLD--meaning there was just one space left. And by the time my email landed in everyone's inbox at 6am, that last spot had been taken overnight!

So my initial retreat is now FULLY BOOKED & CLOSED. JUST LIKE THAT. But don't cry--there's still good news. 

I got so much interest from that email that I'm actually launching A SECOND RETREAT from April 10-15, 2018.And once again, there's only one space left. 

Could it be for you? Are you the one??

I created Lost & Found Marrakech to not only be a pause & reset for other independent, adventurous, like-minded women with a love for travel but....to also hold space for them to connect back to themselves. For you to connect back to yourself. To experience what I consider to be the best part of solo travel--they joy if immersing yourself in a totally new environment & letting go of who you think you are, to learn more about who you can become.

And what better place to do that then halfway around the world, in Africa??

I first traveled to Marrakech last year & my experience in that ancient city was beyond anything I could articulate--the landscape, the architecture, the history, the culture, the people the food....oh, the food. I came back smitten & so did the 6 women who attended that first retreat. Here's what one of them had to say:

My biggest concern about investing in the Lost & Found Marrakech experience was traveling by myself to a destination when I wasn't close to the other participants. I wasn't sure if my personality would fit in & if I'd feel alone & bored throughout my stay. Instead, the moment I met the other women on the trip we connected as if we'd known each other for years! I honestly made lifelong friends on this trip and we shared & connected like family. Totally unexpected bonus!

You can read more about that trip here.

The April 10-15, 2018 retreat includes:

  • 5 nights/6 days accommodation in a traditional Moroccan riad
  • Daily breakfast featuring tea, fresh breads, eggs, honey, jams, yoghurt & specialty Moroccan dishes
  • Welcome Dinner upon arrival made from fresh, local & seasonal ingredients
  • Private, hands-on cooking class with Moroccan women where we’ll learn the secrets to preparing traditional Moroccan dishes. Lunch included.
  • Half day ATV tour of Lake Takerkoust, Agafay desert + traditional tea in a Berber village
  • Guided, sit-down gourmet food & riad tour showcasing regional specialties, traditional spices, & beautiful riads you’d never see on your own
  • Round trip transfer to & from RAK (Marrakech airport)

Total investment $1699 (not including airfare)

The Details

Your $1699 investment can be paid up front, in one payment, or divided into 5 payments:

November 5, 2017: $550 deposit due

2nd payment due December 5th 2017: $287.50

3rd payment due January 5th 2018: $287.50

4th payment due February 5th 2018: $287.50

5th payment due March 5th 2018: $287.50

Here's how to know if this is right for you!

You're an:adventurous woman who loves to explore new cultures & welcomes the opportunity to learn about new lands, languages & ways of life. Someone who enjoys trying new foods. A woman who enjoys pushing the boundaries of her own comfort zone & values EXPERIENCES above THINGS. A woman who doesn't need to depend on a tour guide & relishes charting her own path...but also enjoys having a community forged by deeper connections. If you're someone who doesn't take herself too seriously, loves to laugh, is easy-going & enjoys meeting new people, then you're the type of woman I'm looking for.And you're gonna love this trip. 

This trip is not right for the:High maintenance women. Picky eaters. Women who can't bare to be unplugged from WIFI. Those who expect to be hand-held, managed, catered to, are afraid to be by themselves, don't like to walk or get annoyed around non-English speakers. If you have a Type A personality, are over dramatic (you KNOW if this is you), or expect a very Western experience akin to staying in a traditional hotel...this isn't the trip for you! 

So if you're reading this & thinking, "I'm the one she's waiting for!", just send me an email to daykarobinson@gmail.com & we'll get you signed up! 

Marrakech is unlike anything you've seen before but don't take my word for it...come see for yourself. 

**Please note that due to the logistics involved with planning a trip like this, all deposits & installment payments are non refundable. It is highly encouraged that you get travel insurance which will protect your investment in the unlikely event you need to cancel.**



Two weeks ago my mother's best friend's husband unexpectedly died of a massive heart attack. This woman was like a sister to her, and I know her as an aunt...their kids are like cousins. My "uncle" was just a few months short of retirement from an esteemed career at Chevron and as expected, it's been a hard reality for the family to face.

I've spent a lot of time thinking about how close he was to retirement which in turn, has made me think a lot about work. About the purpose of it and, of course, what we're really doing with the finite, unknown about of time we have on this earth. Thank God he was happy with his.

I've shared this before, but I actually think a lot about death because for me it's a reminder that I don't have the luxury to bet against time that has not been guaranteed to me. I use that as a way to stay motivated, ESPECIALLY as it pertains to all of the work I still want to produce. There is SO much I want to do, and I'm constantly reminding myself:

You're not gonna be here forever, Dayka--do it now. Here's the thing: how you think about what "work" means--and more specifically, the value of YOUR work in the world--is one of the single most important factors to influence how you'll spend the majority of your days. 

We get so caught up with using work as a way to meet our goals, instead of embracing the idea that meaningful work actually IS the goal, that we miss some of the most important questions:

How are you making a contribution to the world with your work? What are you allowing to come through you?

If your work is just a way for you to buy nice things & pay for vacations, then you stay in a perpetual cycle of working to reach the next milestone. And it's never enough, because as soon as you grab the carrot that's right in front of you, you jump right back on the hamster wheel hungry for the next milestone.

So you're basically working to get your next "fix".Just like a drug addict.

No thought is actually given to the work itself, it's just "I need to make $X/month so I can go buy xxx." And your life ends up being subdivided by shit you probably won't remember when you're staring down your last days.

And here's the thing: if this is what you really want--what you're INTENTIONALLY choosing for yourself--then there's nothing wrong with this path. Work your job, buy your stuff, and rinse & repeat as much as possible until your body just can't do it anymore. If that truly makes you happy, then do you, boo.

But if it doesn't, then it's time to do something different.

The only thing about this journey to purposeful work is, there's no one right answer for everybody. What works for me might not work for you. The places I've found success could potentially be failures for you (and vice versa!). But when you recognize that the value is in the journey and not just in the destination, concepts like "failure" and "success" take on a completely different meaning.

They don't really mean anything, actually. 

If you see work as integral to your soul's growth, then the journey of creating a life becomes focused on the process of work itself--of working to uncover your path, acknowledging the dead ends & embracing the forks in the road, the fuck-ups AS WELL AS the achievements. If you see it as your obligation to the world--for occupying space on this planet--then you get that you have to continuously bring everything you are to your work. And that at its highest,

Your work is supposed to be a reflection of who you are. 

This doesn't mean that you're always going to LIKE what you're doing at every step along the way, but it does mean that your essential quest is about much more than just "making money".

Going to Disneyworld. Buying new countertops.The latest 70" flat screen tv.Or a new Tesla. Buying stuff.

These things may add value to your life, but they should never be the source of the value. 

Being mindful about what you put into the world isn't just about watching the words that come out of your mouth--it's also about what you're intentionally creating for the world in a way that only you can do. It's about beign open to the fact that what you THINK you're here to do may not in fact be what you end up doing..and instead fighting against that change, you allow yourself to embrace it. It's about getting really comfortable with the unknown.

The naked-in-bed kinda comfortable.

Because when you commit to growing your soul, there are no guarantees on this path(and there are no guarantees on ANY path, btw). You'll meet a lot of unknowns & seemingly scary places....places where there's not always a quick fix for what's ailing you.But if you're one of the people who can lay their heads down at night believing that what you do matters,

Then you've got something special. Something worth holding onto. Something worth fighting for.

Your beliefs about how you live & move in this world matter, and if you don't know exactly what you believe....this is where you must start. This is your work.

What you do in this world matters.Don't ever believe that it doesn't. 

**also, yesterday I released a very cool Black Book of Solo Travel for the woman who wants to know how to safely travel the world like the badass she is. And it's only $10. Click the link to head to my shop to check it out.**



I had to shut it all the way down this week.My energy was totally depleted & I found myself physically and emotionally exhausted.

Between an incredibly full schedule last week, an emotionally draining conversation over the weekend, entertaining out of town guests, new work projects, late night conversations and Charlottesville having me really feel enraged, once again, at the plight of being black in this country... my damn cup was empty, y'all. 

Like, not even a drop left in that thing.And it was no ones fault but my own.

To quote Auntie Maxine, I (desperately) needed to reclaim my time.

So I said no to work, to friends, and cancelled dinner dates.

I filled my refrigerator with food Monday afternoon, spent the evening listening to a book on tape while lounging in a massive bubble bath, and then climbed my naked, ashy ass into bed & stayed there for 3 days.

And it was everything.

I didn't return any emails, work related or otherwise. Didn't leave the house. Didn't open the drapes. Didn't really leave my bed except for food.

My only plan? Resting until I felt like I didn't need to rest anymore.

Taking care of myself. Recentering. Recuperating.Reclaiming my time.

Because somehow I got way off track over the last 2 weeks. Didn't do a great job of monitoring my input vs. my output. Started giving people more of myself than what I actually had to give. And it left me feeling like shit. 

And while self care is this idea people seem to love in theory,they don't always love it in practice. We seem to feel VERY entitled to each other's time. That oururgent needs means others should adapt to our schedules. That taking days to rest your body & mind--when you're not actually sick--is an indulgent luxury when in fact...

it should be standard practice.

Because allowing your cup to get all the way empty is unhealthy. And dangerous. 

I love to talk about this because I know that I'm not the only one who sometimes forgets that I have the right to say no...but that's the only way we can truly reclaim our time.

No, I will not allow you to manage my time. No, I will not put my needs on the back burner. No, I won't apologize for needing a break. 

People like other people who like themselves.And you know how you like yourself?By making you a priority.Putting your needs first, even if it's inconvenient for others.

Because "reclaiming my time" is really more than just a catch phrase--it's a call to action. A reminder that you are the guardian of the time that's been given to you while you're on this earth. 

It is YOURS. It belongs to YOU. And it's your responsibility to manage it, direct it, decrease it, or increase it, as you see fit.

But you must be the one to do it. 

NEVER be afraid to wave the white flag in your life. If you don't feel well, tell the truth.  If you're burned out from work, tell the truth.  If your relationships aren't supporting you, tell the truth.  If you don't know exactly WTF is wrong, but you know for sure that something just ain't right, then tell the truth about that too. 

I'm spending this last weekday catching up on work & even though a project went a little haywire while I was away, I don't regret waving my flag & closing shop. There was nothing I could've done to avoid the mishap & more importantly, I know that I'm of no service to my clients if I'm not first serving myself.

I needed every single one of those 3 days off, so I took them.THAT'S how you reclaim your time. 



I know, I know. It's been awhile since you've heard from me.

Admittedly, this summer has asked a lot of me. Things I didn't know that I would have to give. 

I'd love to tell you that I've just been lazily spending days lounging by the pool & adventuring off on spontaneous road trips & occupied with lots of wonderful, intelligent and funny men (Ohhh....how I would love to be able to say this!!) but....that hasn't been the case, y'all. 

Instead I've been very meticulously disassembling the foundation I've been standing on & rebuilding a foundation to support something that I've wanted for a long time. Something that I can't even totally conceptualize myself just yet but...it's clearly coming faster than I imagined. 

The process has been excruciating, challenging, draining, scary, expensive & frustrating but....this has also been one of the best times of my life. I am learning A LOT. And I'm still happy. 

And it's kind of interesting because, in a broad aspect, this is exactly what I thought I'd be doing this summer.

I just thought I'd be doing it in Spain

Taking siestas in Retiro Park with my Spanish boyfriend (who I'd already affectionately named "Javi", short for Javier), while we shared tapas of jamón y pan con quesopracticed each other's languages and customs. (clearly I have a VERY vivid imagination)

But since I'm here--healing my body & intensely working on this glow up--I figured it's the perfect time to do launch the 21 Day Gratitude Project for 2017.

The 21DGPis a project I started 2 years ago to experience a deeper level of gratitude by sharing my experience with others. 

Each of you is personally paired with a partner (whom you don't know!) and through 21 days of DAILY emails you connect with them by sharing something you're grateful for in your life. Or the THINGS you're grateful for. Because sometimes we just need to talk & celebrate & focus on the GOOD STUFF going on in our lives. And sometimes it feels lovely to create a deep connection with a person you may have never laid eyes on in your life. Actually, I think we can agree that feels lovely every time it happens.

Because the reality is that the only way to make joy, abundance, peace, happiness, & gratitude grow in our lives is THROUGH OUR OWN COMMITMENT TO UNAPOLOGETICALLY CHOOSE THEM. Again & again.

This project starts next week, on August 2nd, so if you want to participate, head to my blog & use the box on the RIGHT to add your name to the list.

Last year I had over 100 people & I'd love to see this group keep growing! Click here to read more & sign up.  (USE THE BOX ON THE RIGHT THO!)

Lastly, thank you for staying with me these last few weeks and caring about what I do & who I am the things I create & what I have to say. 

For a girl who grew up feeling like what she had to say didn't matter..... it means a lot. 




I could be making more money. SHOULD be making more money.

The truth is that there are things that I KNOW that I know, and I have no doubt that my areas of expertise could be an immense help to so many people.

I am a thinker at heart and I'm always reframing experiences, words & ideas. I have ideas for hosting seminars and retreats and writing books and making jewelry and designing shirts and building authentic communities where people really EXPERIENCE one another.....but few of those ideas have actually gotten beyond the door of my office.

Because for as much as you SEE me do...there's triple the amount of things I don't do. And I have a lot of very "rational", "logical" reasons for this, of course. The standard lies we tend to tell ourselves when we get scared & decide that tapping out would be easier than doing the work.

The idea isn't ready yet. It's not a good time for this. I'm not ready. I'm waiting on ____ to help me with _____. I don't know how to do it. (<<--my all time favorite)

But these, my friends, are lies. And because I've been telling lies, my income isn't doing what it could be doing. It's not doing what it SHOULD be doing. And in case you were wondering, apparently there IS in fact a direct correlation between telling lies & making money. Just FYI.

Monday I had an early morning, major breakthrough about my work, my business and what's actually holding me back. I wasn't even consciously thinking about it but the revelation showed up anyway:

I'm afraid that making more money will require me to live a life that I don't want.

That more money will demand I become drastically more entangled & stressed in the everydayness of life, and that I might end up with so much responsibility that I feel like I'm suffocating. 

And suffocating is a big fear of mine.

In work and in my relationships, I'm afraid of feeling like there's not enough space for me to be me. Like I will be drowned.  

Because after growing up constantly feeling and being told that who I was, what I looked like & how I spoke was "too black/white", "too much" or "too grown", I've evolved into a woman who's very protective her essence. I may not have had a choice as a child, but I certainly have one now. And I exercise it. 

But stepping into the kind of success I imagine for myself means I'm going to have a lot more things going on. And I never knew, until this week, that somewhere deep down, the idea of  "a lot more things going on" makes me feel like I may not be able to be ME.

Now I understand why I've been both pulling close & pushing away the very things that I want most. This is a huge ah-ha in my world.

I know several people who make anywhere from multiple six to multiple seven figure incomes and when I look at their lives, I don't see anything that I want. I don't believe in being stressed out, over committed, sick, exhausted all the time or endlessly complaining.

Yet I see a lot of this in them.And it's a major turnoff for me.

I somehow started equating more projects & more financial abundance with what they have: Stress. And it's made me recoil.

And I get that this may sound a bit odd to you but I think it's important to tell the truth about how we feel, no matter how it may sound to others. So I am.

My truth is that I'm afraid of being trapped with too much responsibility in a life I fundamentally don't want. Because I actually love how I live now....I just want MORE. 

So I've been unpacking this idea all week, and I've come up with a ton of ideas & thoughts and my work. Things I'll tell you more about in another post.

But here's what I know for now:

That it's time to really get to work. To do what I could&should be doing.

The reality is that I love money. Not for what it can buy, but for who it helps me to become & how it helps me show up in the world. So I'm not serving myself--or anyone else--by avoiding a life of greater abundance. That's Bible. 

It actually is NOT easier to avoid doing the work.

If there's a chance I'm gonna be "suffocated" by doing the work or "suffocated" by not getting the work out/being able to live the kind of life I want then....I'd rather take the chance and create art. And to move forward trusting that the road will be paved along the way.

So I am.

And if any of this resonates with you, please leave a comment or drop me an email. I'd love to hear from you.

**Also, I've not only dropped the price on my 18 page Design Proposal & Terms by 51-ish% (the one that I use with all of my design clients!) but I've also made it into a word document which makes it easier for you to adapt for personal use. If you're a design professional/aspiring professional or student, you WANT to have this. Click here to see more details.**



January 21, 2015 06:19:50

In my natural life I don't think I've ever been as scared as I was in this moment.

All of the sudden I found myself at The Weather Channel headquarters, Studio 9, getting ready to go on LIVE, NATIONAL TV with none of than Al Roker & Stephanie Abrams.

Yes, that Al. The one from The Today Show.

In less than 10 seconds Al was going to utter my name across his lips, look me in my eyes & engage me with rapt interest as I discussed the projects I'd created for my live, national tv debut on his show.

But how the hell did I get here???

I saw the clock start counting down the seconds 10, 9, 8, 7....and I all of the sudden a sheer panic rose up in my chest. Then I heard it--the sound of some crazy person inside me shouting:

What the fuck are you DOING HERE?? You're gonna forget everything you're supposed to talk about!! They will see that you're a fraud!! Run out the door right now--GO!!! Save yourself while you still can!!

I felt like a deer in headlights and thought my heart was going to beat itself right out of my chest.

Now 10 seconds doesn't seem like a long time but let me tell you...it IS. You can't imagine how many (nasty, destructive) scenarios the human brain can create in as little as 10 seconds but I think I experienced almost all of them that morning. I swore I was gonna have a major asthma attack, right there on the stage, save for the fact that I don't actually have asthma. 

But then the clock hit "0" and it was showtime.  The cameras were up & we were live all across America.

Al introduced me and I was all smiley and chatty and 100% in control and totally schooling them on my spring projects and my hair was shining like a Cornsilk Cabbage Patch doll and my face was beat and my shoes were all the way on point. And just as I really started getting into it....he "threw it" to commercial break and my time was over. Just like that. 4 days of preparation & work summed up in 180 seconds.

I went from feeling incompetent, afraid & under qualified to feeling empowered, confident & more than capable. All in the span of 3 minutes.

But that's how these things always seems to happen, you know.  

Because this is how it feels to invite yourself into the process of creation. You get an invitation (from a friend, from God, from your intuition, your kids, etc.) to create something new, so you start doing it. You find the work tedious, but exciting. You love your ideas but none of the work actually looks like what you envisioned just yet. But what continues to push you is your desire to see this thing come to fruition. To watch it be born. And then all of the sudden it's showtime/launch time/show up time and in an instant, you feel scared out of your mind. You worry that maybe your idea actually isn't new, that it's not a fresh perspective, that you aren't good enough, don't know enough and seriously feel like you are quite possibly a fool for even embarking on such an ambitious undertaking.

But now you're on stage (figuratively speaking) and can't stop. There's nowhere to hide. You've done so much that the easiest way out is actually to go forward.

So that's what you do.

You deliver your creation, knock it out of the park and realize that--surprise, surprise--you had it all along.That the voice was a lie. Not only can you now see your creation in all of its intended glory but you start embracing the fact that you totally killed that thing and maybe you even shot too small. You realize you could actually be a fantastic FILL IN for Al when he's on vacation because you rocked it so hard!! Fuck the 3 minute segment--you could totally do a 20 MINUTE segment! Maybe even have your own show! Own your own network! The sky is the limit!!

But you only get here by pushing beyond the voice.

Beyond the fear, beyond the doubt, & beyond feeling like you're still just an over talkative, precocious 8 year old. Because the truth is that none of those feelings are real.

This is just a reminder that the closest (and easiest) way out is actually through, because going back means you'll never get anywhere. It seems like it's safer, but it's not.

Staying small will actually kill you. Quite literally. 

For every story you hear about how it "turned out so bad" or about how someone "just couldn't make the idea work", never forget that there are MANY MORE stories about people who refused to let the fear have the final say.Everything you see, do & use in your life today is a result of someone pushing past their (thousands of) fears to make their idea work.

And then there's me. I talk about these things because this is what I KNOW firsthand.I HAVE BEEN THERE (and have the pics to prove it). I would've missed out on so many projects, clients & opportunities if I would've let fear get the best of me that morning. I never would've know what I was capable of if I hadn't totally blew past my self-imposed boundary. 

So whatever you may be working on, praying for, or struggling with...... KEEP GOING.

The easiest way to get beyond those feelings is to just buckle up & take the road that goes straight through them.

*And if you wanna watch my segment from that morning with Al & Stephanie, click here. *