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Are you ready to make the last 4 months of the year the best time of your life??
 (and can you believe we're already in September?!)

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WHERE I'VE BEEN, WHAT I'M DOING...OH, AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Happy New Year!!!!

I can't believe it's been 3 months since my words have touched this blog! I never intended to be away for this long but life got in the way around Thanksgiving of last year and rolled right on through February, which then kicked off a super crazy month of work, a bad gastrointestinal illness AND a milestone birthday. Are you tired yet?? Needless to say, I figured I better get something together before you all think I deserted you! 
I typically love the beginning of the year for what it represents--a fresh start & a time to set challenging goals and plans for the upcoming year...lots of thinking about what I'd like to see happen in my personal life and business during the year and figuring out what it will take to make those goals happen. Everything has been so back to back for me over the past few months that I JUST clarified my goals last week! I really wanted to do a post like the one I did last year--and maybe I still will--but for now, just sharing them with you will be an accomplishment. I figure they're better late than never!
So on to the news. Last year.
Right before Thanksgiving we found out that my 91 year old grandmother, the one I talked about here, had lymphoma or cancer of the lymph nodes. She found a lump during the summer but has always been in really good health (I mean, she was substitute teaching up until about 2 years ago), so she didn't really see a pressing issue. She spent her summer going to the centennial anniversary of her beloved sorority, Delta Sigma Theta, and then spent October visiting friends in California and attending her high school class reunion with her lifelong best friend. When I tell you granny had some spunk, know that I tell you no lie! After visiting the doctor while in California her diagnosis came back end of October and though we didn't know exactly how much time she had, we knew that it was serious. My sister and I immediately rearranged our Thanksgiving plans and flew to Seattle to be with my mom & grandma for the holiday. My grandma was still very chatty and VERY much her normal self (runnin' things AND people), minus her ability to get around on her own, but it was clear she was in pain. She was put in hospice (home care) shortly after we arrived and my mom asked me to extend my visit to help her care for my granny. My 8 day visit (with 4 days of clothes!) turned into a 6 week experience that I'll never forget. 
To be honest, my grandmother and I were never really close. There was always a love there, but she and my sister were the ones with the extra special relationship. I never planned, nor wanted, really, to be a caretaker in her final days, but that's just what ended up happening and it was probably one of the best experiences of my life. My grandma passed away right before Christmas and she was pretty much coherent until 1 or 2 days before she passed. I'm thankful that I'm self-employed and had the ability to take off to be with my mom & grandma during those 7 weeks. I was able to make my grandma's food, give her her medicine, prepare her water bottles (everything to her exact specifications!), and talk with her about her life during our weeks together. In the end, we were able to share a love that we never really could during the course of her life and it was...dare I say, kind of magical. I was also able to spend a ton of time with my mom, which I never would've had otherwise, and it reminded me why I like her so much! Even in the midst of the chaos, I'd definitely say that I had a good visit.
So I stayed with my mom until after Christmas, at which time she flew back to Atlanta with me for a week and then back home to prep for my grandmother's memorial service at which we were hosting a lot of people from as far as New Jersey and Florida. Though it wasn't the opportune occasion, it was SO good to see all of the people my family has loved and known for years come to Seattle to celebrate my grandma's life. In the end she was very comfortable and ready. She told me one day, "I'd like to live to 100 but if I don't that's okay...I can't really complain about getting cancer at 91." I loved her perspective.  So the end of January meant another trip out to Seattle which meant that December and January flew by in a whirlwind...not much time for anything other than family obligations. 
And that brings us to February. In the midst of catching up on all of my unattended business from November, December & January, I'm working with 3 new clients, 1 renovation project, my own laundry room makeover and am also working with FlynnsideOut Productions as a Project Designer which consists of lots of design work, prop styling, and getting to work with great brands like Target, HGTV Home, AutoTrader and more. To say my cup is running over is an understatement! When I was writing out my goals I took stock of all that's swirling around me I realize that everything I've said I wanted over the past few years has been spoken into existence.  It's exciting to know that there's so much more to do and much higher goals to set...believe me, I'm setting them. I've also been really reflective about the power of speaking words of positivity and encouragement into your OWN life...things might not always happen when you want them to, but they WILL happen. I'm living proof. I should tell you, things are going well for Dayka Robinson and Dayka Robinson Designs.

Oh! And I celebrated my 35th birthday on February 25th (but I don't look a day over 25, trust me!).  For the first time in a decade I threw a great dinner party with 18 of my closest friends and had thee best birthday.
Everything I ever wanted. 
(see proof below)

So things are good.
And while I've been super busy with family obligations & work there's been lots of cause for celebration on the business front, too.
More on that to come!

TGIF: WHY THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS "THERE"

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"There" doesn't exist. It simply doesn't.

Every time you get close, your ceiling becomes your floor.

But let me first, back up.

When I came home on Monday and found a postcard in my mailbox from Patricia saying I was missed in blogland, I figured it was high time I get back to my duties.

Then when I was at the gym later that afternoon and got a text from Cris with a very similar message, I thought, "wow...this surely is a sign."
And then a phone call from Helen after my workout was like God himself speaking and saying "girl--quit fooling around and get back to that blog!". 
So from God's lips to my ears, here I am. 
And this is what's been on my mind this week. 
It's great to hear people list my accomplishments and how far I've come...but I don't always think about it in the same way they do (does anyone, really?). Now don't get me wrong--I am the first one to acknowledge that this business I now have was created from nothing but a late night seed of an idea and has grown organically into to a successful blog, interior design business, resale business and styling work for the top Atlanta lifestyle magazines.  I truly feel like it's quite the accomplishment, especially for a girl like me.   But I want more.  And accomplishing and achieving has helped me to become clearer about what I do and don't want to do with my career (and my life). 
So in essence, my ceiling has become my floor. 
And I think this happens for everyone. 
The things that you once viewed as your goals end up become the foundation for your next steps, and that means there's a lot of adjusting and recalibrating along the creative path. 
For anyone who's ever had a dream, a goal, or even a challenge, "there" has always been this magical destination where answers come easily, life is a little less unpredictable and living gets easier.  But what every dream chaser eventually comes to find is that that place surely does not exist. Because by the time you get "there", your latest accomplishment appears much easier than the process of getting there felt, and that goal then becomes the path by which you reach all of your new goals. 
It's like every time you take a step towards it, it moves back a little further. 
But that's really a good thing, because one random day you'll look up and realize..........             your ceiling has become your floor.
And things that you were once striving for, the thing (or things) that you once thought would be the epitome of your career will one day just become another part of the foundation that you use to expand your business (or your life). 
So for me that means things like:
-relaunching my website
-having my work published nationally 
-styling photo shoots
have just become other foundational bricks upon which I build my business. And I wanted these things so badly...but when I accomplished them, that adjusted my ceiling of expectation and my old goals had just become my new normal--does that make sense??
Life is constantly expanding, shifting, adjusting, readjusting, changing course, reversing and sometimes a mix of all the above...and that's okay! For me I'm finding that my shifting is actually leading me into expanding my ideas of what's possible. And that is exciting. 
So there is no "there", there's just right here, right now.
But that alone is something to shout about. 
Thank God for the floor.